I have made some really bad choices in my life. I have made them and I have asked forgiveness for them. I have paid the price of natural consequences in many of them. In many of them, I have been amazed how God has lathered his Grace over me and I have not had to pay the full price of horrendously wrong choices. I am and will forever be grateful to the God Most High for those gracious gifts of easier-consequences He has bestowed upon me.
But, as I have moved through life I have found the reality of answering to God at the end of my life a huge motivator in making right choices.
I remember making choices without this awareness. They were choices that were motivated by my feelings, or my plans, or my thoughts of how such-and-such would work out in the end. I never got into drugs, never smoked and was never a heavy drinker - BUT OH MY how much I have sinned and how many wrong choices I have made. I won't even go into those bad choices here. That is for a book!
All that said, at some point in my life I began to understand the reality of God caring about the choices I made.
Many choices we make are simple. If a choice is wrong, illegal, hurtful, or manipulative, DON'T choose to do it. That, my friend, is really a no-brainer!
Others are a bit more confusing. Should I take this job, or that one? Should I let my child go to the party or keep her home? Do I wear this pair of shoes or the other ones? Okay, well that last one really makes no difference in the long run, so have fun making any choice you want!
In fact, most of the choices we make are not really life altering. And I remember a parenting technique I used with my own children.
Try to say YES as often as possible.
What I mean by that is, if you can either give several good choices to your child or if you can simply say yes to their request, DO IT!
I think God is the same way. I don't think He is in the heavens just waiting to drop a piano on our heads. I believe with all my heart the scripture that says:
"If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him?" Matthew 7:11
I believe that God wants to bless us. I think He desires for a relationship with us with the thought to bless us. He is a Good Good Father!
But, there are things that come up in our lives that are crossroad situations. They can be peer pressure situations, They can be male/female heat of the moment situations. They can be texting while driving, etc. the list goes on.
I have found that when I am in these situations, it is best to ask myself what will I want to say to God when I have to stand before Him at the end of time. "I have to answer to God." I don't have to answer to my husband, my children, my friends, or my boss. I have to answer to God. If I have to answer to God, I want to be able to say to Him. I did what I thought was right.
Presently, I am in a situation that creates hardship in my life. I have no way of staying in touch with my elderly mother. I live in a different state. I don't have endless financial means. I have commitments and responsibilities away from her. She is in a rehab center and my sisters have the only phones available to her on their persons. The situation is such that I find myself in a quandary.
My mother often cannot remember if I have called or not. If my sisters don't call me while they are at her location, I can go for weeks not talking to her.
I call my sisters, text my sisters. They are not that good about cleaning out their message boxes, so they don't get my messages. Or they forget my texts.
Granted they are under stress in this time of being stretched to the limit. That is not the issue.
The issue is that they are really ready for me to stop calling and/or texting. I hesitate, because I know that it might be considered a bother, a nuisance. I know that sending her cards is a good idea too. And I am up for that. But hearing my mom's voice is important to me.
I have wondered why this has been such a difficult situation. My sisters know I am trying to talk to mom. My mom knows I am trying to connect with her. Why don't I just quit calling? texting? She is probably not going to remember anyway...
BUT here is the truth. I must stand before God on the end of my days. I must answer to Him. Did you keep your commitment to your parent? I want to be able to say, "Yes, I tried to do everything in my power to do so, dear LORD. I did."
I have to answer to God.
And that is the most important question I must ask myself before I begin any journey. Before I begin any task. Before I begin any relationship. If He has impressed upon me to do something. I must trust that He knows why.
So have a wonderful week.
Be blessed in Him.
Remember He is the giver of good gifts.
Remember He is also the Great Father that disciplines us in love.
Remember He wants to say yes to our requests when He knows it won't leave us in a disaster, or damage us, or hinder us in any way.
I have a good good father in Jehovah The God Almighty.
And if you are a child of God, you do too!
Because He IS the I AM, i am
God has more to share with us. Consider reading the bible to find nuggets for living life well and wonderfully.
We would enjoy your thoughts here on RR&BCommunity. The cost is minimal - we know it is good for some financial commitment - but the cost is less than 3 coffees from McDonald's . Come along.
Until next week on Monday at some time...
Thanks for meeting me here today.
See you then.
Robyn & Biff Cox
Come and join us for reading the bible together...
Just click here
Robyn Rochelle Cox
WHOSE AM I?