God does not send us into the dangerous and exacting life of faith because we are qualified; He chooses in order to qualify us for what he wants us to be or do." Eugene Peterson
It’s 3:23 am. I’m up on an internet site looking up blogs of friends and supporters. Why?
These thoughts are roaming around in my head…
- My youngest son got married to the most wonderful woman one week ago today. The wedding was quaint, glorifying to God, a celebration to our family, and a celebration to my daughter-in-law’s family.
- Things I learned during this time:
o nothing matters as much as God being glorified in a wedding; no matter how hard you try people get their feelings hurt during a wedding, even though many people wonder if it is not a better idea to elope – weddings, when done right, are an important melding of two families. I am proud to be melded with my daughter-in-laws family; it doesn’t matter how hard you try, all weddings worth their salt will have some sort of trauma going on!!!! (i.e. relatives from Michigan drive for 20 hours to get here on Thursday, go out in friend’s boat on Friday during the afternoon, have boat break down and fry while trying to get back to shore and the wedding on time – not fun / but memorable)
o The choices we make have long-term consequences. I have an ex-husband. We have long since given up acting like 2 years olds when we celebrate a moment with our children. However, I was sad for him during this wedding. He said goodbye to us in 1988. That is 17 years ago. He divorced me and remarried another woman in 1990. That is 15 years ago. He has been a father as much as a father can be when one is not in the moments of living. (A bit of clarification… it matters not whether or not a person cares, wants to be, or says they will be – if a person is not in the moment by moment living with the ebb and flow of LIFE they cannot know a person. In the movie SHALL WE DANCE. The wife of the man who is learning to dance says something like “marriage says that you are committed to a person enough to take notice of the everyday events” i.e. the trip to the cleaners, etc. It is the same with families. One must be committed enough to a family to take notice of Life in all. Without that commitment we just don’t know each other. I was sad for my ex-husband. He didn’t know the triumphs that my children had experienced, the glories that they had shared with God, the people that had invested into their lives, the memories that had been seared into their brains. He was on the outside looking in – even though we tried to include him, he felt it. These are the times I sit back and know that relationship consequences must be the hardest.
o On that same note. My son and his new wife made a wonderful statement of consequences. They chose to remain chaste until their wedding day. Now for those of you that don’t know that olde word chaste – it means that they were virgins. They made decisions all along the way (and they dated 5 years) to be cautious about their boundaries. i.e. physical, emotional, friends, time, personal – all these boundaries in place in healthy doses helped them. During the ceremony they openly exchanged their chastity rings for their wedding rings. Now they are reaping the wonderful consequences of JOY and PEACE in their beginnings. I am thrilled that God was glorified.
Because HE IS the I AM
a mutating missionary
Posted by Robyn Rochelle E. at Friday, May 20, 2005
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